Wonderfully nerdy online dating success stories, TED Blog

October Two, 2013 at 11:33 am EDT

When yet another romantic relationship came “burning down te a spectacular style,” Amy Webb sought the advice of hier friends and family, including hier grandmother. “She said, ‘Stop being so picky. True love will find you when you least expect it,’” Webb recalls te hier TED Talk.

This advice struck Webb, who works with gegevens for a living, spil preposterous. She had calculated that, te the entire city of Philadelphia, only 35 dudes had all the qualities she wasgoed look for and wasgoed still single. “I can take my grandmother’s advice and sort of ‘least expect’ my way into maybe bumping into the one [of them] – or I can attempt online dating,” she says.

Online dating is, ter fact, the 2nd most popular way couples meet ter today’s technologically-mediated world. But when Webb began the journey, she found it much more fraught than she’d anticipated. “I like the idea of online dating because it’s predicated on algorithms,” she says. “These algorithms had a sea utter of guys that desired to take mij out on lots of dates—what turned out to be truly awful dates.”

At this point, Webb determined to get indeed systematic, and to find out how to make online dating work for hier. She made a list of 72 items that she wasgoed looking for ter a man, then ranked them by priority. She created a fake masculine profile so she could decode popular women’s strategies and then reverse-engineer hier own profile. When she applied hier rigorous ratings system to hier plethora of possible matches, she wound up with just a single person who met all hier criteria.

They went on what turned out to be a good date. Te fact, a very good one. To see just how good, observe the talk.

Ahhhh, online love. Read on for some more delightful (and wonderfully nerdy) online dating stories wij found, well, online.

  1. “Geeklover,” who posts hier tale on The-Gaggle.com, joined the dating webpagina Geek2Geek (yup: a dating webpagina for geeks) by force. Te other words, hier friends created a profile for hier spil a joke. But after she clicked around the webpagina a bit, she thought that maybe it wasn’t such a bad place for hier, a self-described history nerd, to find love. She spiffed up hier profile and went on a good date with a major movie spel enthusiast. But it took a chance encounter inbetween them ter auténtico life – on the Fresh York subway to be precies – for both of them to realize that they actually had auténtico potential.


  • An admirable OKCupid Success Story: the very first time Andrea and Michael IMed through the webpagina, they talked for 12 hours. Despite the fact that they lived 1330 miles bijzonder, they began talking daily, for months, before ultimately meeting. Less than a year zometeen, they got engaged and are presently programma their wedding. Andrea’s best advice to anyone else hoping for love on the webpagina: “Answer spil many questions spil you can … our match % wasgoed 97!”
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  • Willard Foxton’s date attempted to “sexily nibble” him overheen dessert. Instead, she bit him, he bled and became ill. “So yeah, an infected human-bite wound. Hammer that for a dating story,” he writes te The Independent. But Foxton persevered, and te fact determined to blog about his dates, committing to 28 te total, with 14 from mainstream sites and 14 from more specific ones “such spil BikerDating, Sea Captain dating or Godmother (which matches royals with commoners).” Spoiler bedachtzaam: spil with the stories above, it also worked.
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  • Earlier this year, after it wasgoed discovered that Notre Lady linebacker Mant T’eo’s deceased online gf had never existed, CNN asked readers to share their stories of online dating hoaxes. Barbara Hassan began online dating through Match.com te 2010 and began corresponding with an “architect/construction manager who built and designed a building ter Nigeria for orphans.” She, of course, realized this wasn’t true when he asked hier to pay for a $2700 plane toegangsbewijs to the United States. A year zometeen, she felt bold enough to attempt online dating again – this time with fine success. How did she unie with hier now spouse? They both collective their tales of being scammed by online paramours.
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  • When Gemma discovered hier playmate wasgoed cheating on hier with women he met using the webstek Slew of Fish, Gemma ended the relationship – and joined POF herself. Here, she gives the nuts and bolts of hier unusual success story.
  • All this said, not everyone is thrilled with the sweet nerds they meet online. Take, for example, writer Alyssa Bereznak who wrote the Gizmodo werkstuk, “My Geschreven OKCupid Affair with a World Champ Magic: The Gathering Player.” After two dates, she broke things off with him, concluding, “Maybe I’m shallow for not being able to see past Jon’s world title. I’ll own that. But there’s a larger point here: that judging people on shallow stuff is human nature, one person’s Magic is another person’s fingernail biting.”

    What has your practice bot with online dating? Do you choose to leave love up to serendipity, or do you relish the chance for gegevens to guide you on the way?

    This postbode originally ran te October of 2013. It wasgoed updated for Valentine’s Day .

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